Tuesday, March 10

- What My Mother Has Taught Me ft. Debenhams...

With Mother's Day just around the corner, I've decided to dedicate this post to the most loving, selfless woman in my life. Ashamedly (although I reckon it's fairly typical), it's only been in the past few years where I've only acknowledged just how much my mum did/does for me and my brothers.

Despite her occasional switch to dragon mode, the squabbles and the discipline (which we most often deserve), our mother's do a heck of a lot for us; we need their reassurance, support and guidance. Not only do they directly advise and teach us, we also learn things by observation. Your parents are your most powerful role models and, when faced with a challenging situation, I often ask myself what they would do in that position.

The role of a mother extends much further beyond cooking meals and doing our laundry. She is a nurturer; she has an innate ability to make everything alright.

building happy memories... ...exploring the world... 7 ...comforting... ...providing cuddles... ...and support.

We learn through direct interaction and indirectly through the examples set by attitudes. My mum is very against gossiping and tale-telling. If someone made a snide comment on the playground I still clearly remember my mum not wanting to hear much about it and constantly saying "ignore them", and that was the end of the conversation. I won't lie, back then, I found her response frustrating at times. It's much easier said than done to ignore someone you're lumbered with in a classroom, who will turn all of your friends against you (social exclusion is not fun), but now I totally understand. I feel it's definitely led me to be the way I am now. Unfortunately, petty gossiping and cliqueyness doesn't seem to stop with age, but thankfully "ignore them" can now be applied. When you're leading your own life and becoming more independent, you start to learn that people come and go and if that means cutting people out, then so be it.

Not only has my mum taught me how to deal with friendships (or so-called friends), but also romance. Like most people, I've had my taste of bad experiences, but my mum has never mulled any of it over. Similarly to the above response, she tends not to hear much about it and reinforces that it's all just part of life. I usually hate, and I mean hate, soppy/deep quotes but 'you go through the dirt to find the flowers' could not be more relevant. It's normal to go through the crap and it's important to remind yourself that it's more weird if you didn't.

Look after No.1
Another useful snippet my mum has taught me is to simply look after myself. When Debenhams contacted me for this post with the mention of a hair product, I instantly agreed as my mum constantly emphasises the importance of having healthy skin and hair. I can still picture as a 5 year old my mum religiously applying hand cream every night. Making the time and the effort equals feeling good about yourself.

Additionally, whether it's been a chop or a slight trim, I've had my haircut every 6-8 weeks my entire life. I often get complimented on how healthy my hair is and I would hands down say it's due to this. I regularly see on Twitter people going for their first haircut in months/years, which probably seems normal to a lot of you, but bizarre to me.

My mum's influence on hair care doesn't just stop there. She insisted I used conditioner when I was a youngster who was more interested in playing with a rubber duck, stressed the importance of using the right hair brush for my hair type, and refused to let me use an elastic band to tie my hair up (anyone else forget a hair tie for PE and be faced with one?)

Even when I was first testing out this curling wand Debenhams kindly sent to me, she asked if I had applied heat defence styling spray beforehand. Her rigidness with skin and hair care has paid off though as I've definitely adopted her views and automatically maintain a routine.

Please can I stress that this is a hair tool and not something derived from the set of Fifty Shades of Grey (something my mother thankfully did not teach me about). Then there's the heat protective glove, which really doesn't help in this situation. Kinkyness aside, this Babyliss Diamond Waves Wand* is honestly amazing! I'm used to using curling tongs to create curls which is a niggle as they take so long with my thick hair. I dislike how tiny sections of hair must be clamped down and held in the same position for around 30 seconds. The clamping also results in the dreaded kink at the tip of each section (dammit - I said kinkyness aside).

However, this tool is completely different. No clamping is involved and you simply wrap a section of hair around the wand, whichever thickness you'd like depending on the looseness of your desired wave, and hold for just 5-8 seconds! The cleverly shaped wand effectively creates a gorgeous wave and the speedy wrapping technique is where the included glove is a godsend; it protects you whilst you're quickly moving so near to the hot surface. Furthermore, you have control over the temperature setting - I found that 180°C was enough to do the job, but it goes up to 210°C! Cough, don't forget the heat defence spray, cough!

Whether you realise it now or not, your mother is your best friend. Be kind, be grateful and tell her you love her - she's the only one you have. Everyday should be Mother's Day.

What has your Mother taught you? Don't forget to check out Debenhams for their extensive range of gift ideas!


  1. aww this is o sweet,

  2. great post! such lovely insights and photos


  3. Gotta love old photos :) Love the one of you having a bit of a cry on her lap. Awkward! Your hair looks of stunning.

    Corinne x

  4. Such a lovely post <3 and love the old pictures of you and your mum, too cute

    Hayley @ Tea Party Beauty

  5. What a cute post! Loved all the old photos too :)
    Also love your hair :D


  6. Such a cute girl you are :) :)
    I love your hair :) :)


  7. This post is so dear! I love the old photos. .... I want that hair wand. Been looking at them with a bit of fear, but now want to try!



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  8. Aw, I love the pictures of you and your mum. It sounds like you have an amazing mum too! I love your hair here too, so stunning! x

    Beyond The Velvet | Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

  9. What a beautiful post, your mum seems an amazing woman.

    Beka. xo

  10. Amazing pics dear!! So cute. love your hair.
    Kisses from Spain.
    Xoxo, P.

    My Showroom

  11. These photos are so cute! My mum has taught me everything about being a good person, being strong, and independent. She told me once that things can never be unseen or unheard, I take that piece of advice with me everywhere!


  12. This is a really lovely post, I was like awww through most of it! Your hair is amazing, the curls look so good! :)

    Velvet Blush

  13. What a lovely post, Karen and thank you for sharing your childhood pictures with us, I honestly appreciate the personal touch. I have seen that Babyliss wand before but wasn't sure if it'll suits me. I am completely hopeless with hair tools. LOL!

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  14. What a beautiful post, I'm sure it will bring a tear to your mom's eyes reading such amazing words. Your hair looks beautiful here and times like this I wish I had long hair x

    Beauty with charm

  15. Awww this post made me feel really emotional! Love my mum and so lucky to have her :)

  16. What lovely pictures! Your mom sounds amazing :)

  17. I love the result. Such natural, beautiful waves. I can relate about recently understanding the work that mom's do. When we're younger we don't see it.

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  18. These photos are so cute! And I love beautiful hair style

  19. Wow your hair looks amazing

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

  20. Such a lovely, it was really nice to read <3 You hair also looks gorgeous, very very pretty!

    I have a new outfit post up on the blog, would love to know your thoughts lovely:

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  21. What a beautiful post about your mother. Such a wonderful thing to read, and it inspires me to be my best with my two babes. x
    Angie x | Chocolate & Lipstick || UK Beauty and Lifestyle Blog

  22. I couldn't stop laughing when I read "despite the switch to dragon rol" hahahah same thing happens in my house!


  23. Lovely post, Karen! Really sweet and inspiring, and those pictures with your mom are beautiful! I have to say that I'm pretty amazed by the curling iron! xx


  24. Super cute post. Those photos of you and your mom are adorable! And your hair looks fantastic, very pretty curls. xx Naomi in Wonderland

  25. What a lovely post and your waves are beautiful! xx

  26. this was such a lovely post to read! also, your hair looks lovely like this x
    Hannah | Heyitshannaah

  27. Aww what a lovely post. And those curlers look amazing! x

    Amy | The Perks of Being Amy

  28. Your post about your mom is so sweet and you look amazing. I love your hair.

  29. Loved reading this such a lovely post to your mum. The most important thing my mum taught me was never to give up, be patient and eventually it will happen, wise woman Lucy x

  30. Such a lovely post. It's funny how only after we grow a bit older we start to really appreciate our parents and all the sacrifices they make for us. They deserve all the recognition they can get. :) I also love your curls. I really want to buy a wand and get more into the habit of curling my locks. hehe xx

    Renata | Speaking Beauty UK

    Renata | Speaking Beauty UK

  31. This is just an adorable post :) It's so important to appreciate our parents!

    Natalie Ann xo // Petal Poppet Blogs ♥

  32. I love my babyliss diamond waves; they work great on short hair too.
    What a lovely post about your mother. Mothers always know best!